I’ve read one of the most fascinating things lately. You know why people like Zuckerberg (the creator of Facebook) always dress in casual clothes? Or why people like the late Steve Jobs always dressed in similar clothes?
It isn’t because they are cheap. It is in order to save time. By having the same dress code every single day, the save time.
Every successful person follows a process, a set of actions that are done again and again with a predetermined purpose. This saves them from the need to think about it every time and from wasting time on different options.
So why shouldn’t you do the same thing? Why shouldn’t you follow a process when going out to meet girls?
In other words – you should create a process from start to finish.
Here is how such a process would look like:
- First topic covered.
- Second topic.
- Third topic.
- Questions you’ll ask her.
- Asking her number.
- Post number small-talk.
In other words, you don’t want to be stuck. You don’t want to wonder “what’s next” and always have something prepared. For example, one of my processes was to ask for directions and interesting places when in a new country.
The conversation always started with something like …
“Hi, I’m a tourist here and I’m a bit lost. Where can I find XYZ?”
She would reply something and then I would ask …
“Speaking of which, what other fun places can you reccomend me in this town?”
From this point, the conversation picked off naturally and I would always ask for the phone number at the end. Based on the feedback I’ve got (how she reacted), I improved my process. At some point I approached about 5 – 6 girls an hour using this process.
You can use this mindset in other areas of your life too. If you define a process, step by step actions, you’ll get results faster in any area you want.
For example, a lot of people want to take up running, especially in the morning. Most give up after two or three days, when the initial motivation goes away.
But what if you could define a process? Such a process would look like:
- Set an alarm to go to sleep, so you can get at least seven hours of quality sleep a night. This alarm can go at 22:00.
- Prepare your running clothes and sneakers from the evening before, you want to have everything ready, even your iPod or MP3 player.
- Set the first alarm at 06:55 and put it away from your bed, so you won’t hit the snooze button automatically.
- Set the second alarm at 07:00.
- Have a bottle of water next to the clothes.
- Once you wake up, drink water, shower and get dressed into the gym clothes. Go outside and run.
If you prepare everything beforehand, especially if you prepare your environment, it will become a habit far, far faster.
So as a final trick, define a process so you always know what you need to do next. It will save you a lot of time and it will help you get through the initial pain period, where you are not very good at it and you will not get results easily.