This part of the book is not about a technique. It is not about some secret strategy. It is about you. It is about you, the person who wants something else from his life.
The person who is sick and tired of spending fridays … and saturdays … and sundays … and maybe all the days of the week alone. The person which wants to meet as many girls as possible and wants to offer them something good … no matter if it is about the experience, the trust or simply the sex.
You may have wondered, often, why you are not successful with the opposite sex. Why some people find it so natural and easy while you find it among the hardest things in life.
Well, my friend, there is no simple answer to this. This is how things are. Some people were taught to be more courageous since a young age and this easily translated into young adulthood.
Some people prefered to play Football instead of playing computer games and therefore, developed social skills faster than you. In the end, what you are right now is a consequence of everything you’ve done (or lacked to do) in your lifetime.
Your identity determines the results you achieve in life. And your identity is a sum of many factors, some that are easy to understand and others that are hidden deep within your psyche.
What you need to understand is that where you are now is not representative of where you’ve been. However, in the same time, unless you change something, in five years you’ll be the same person and as a consequence, you’ll get exactly the same results.
In life, nothing changes unless you change. It all starts with you. Dating won’t change. Social interactions won’t change. Until you take the decision to take control of your life and do something amazing with it, you won’t change your results.
I know that it is scary. This is why so few people do it.
Most people prefer to complain.
For example, let’s take a person that is overweight. The fastest and easiest way to lose weight is to eat less while burning more calories. Yet, few people do this. Most people prefer to simply complain and condemn others for why they fail.
Yet, this is hypocrisy. Life is not fair and we are not all made equal. Would you be attracted to a girl that is not attractive? Mostly not.
Then why should an attractive girl be attracted to you if you are not attractive? It is live by the sword and die by the sword. And I guess this is the entire central idea between seduction and what I’m trying to teach you here.
You can find excuses why you don’t want to do it. You can rationalize. Nobody will condemn you. It is your life. Yet, if you want results, you need to put in the work and nothing, nothing at all in this world can change this (unless you become very good looking or become rich).
Will approaching girls be easy?
Will you get results from day one?
No, unless you are very lucky.
Will you get rejected a lot?
But it is worth it. It is worth it because if you get good at this, if you develop this skill, then you won’t be alone ever again. You’ll be in the position to chose. You’ll be one of the few who can meet someone new whenever he wants.
And that’s not all.
You’re also going to develop as a person. You’ll see how your self esteem increases overnight and you’ll perform better at work. You’ll have more faith in yourself. You’ll start to take better care of yourself. This simple thing – this simple decision – to start approaching girls will change your entire life.
It will compound into changes you can’t even realize right now. And then, one day, you’ll find yourself in a different world, as a different person.
A world in which sex is not a big deal because it is easily available. A world where you feel and you are in control over your own existence and a world where all your shyness, all your anxiety, is gone.
And this is the end goal. To transform yourself. To become the next version of yourself. To become what you’ve always wanted.
That’s why my friend – I welcome you on this journey. It is not only about sex and meeting girls. It is about having the courage to transform yourself and be what you’ve only dreamt of. And doing this – going on this road was and still is one of the best decisions of my life.
You see, you don’t know what you don’t know.
There are four levels of competence in life. These are:
* Unconscious incompetence.
* Conscious incompetence.
* Conscious competence.
* Unconscious competence.
When you are at the first level, you don’t even know that you have some shortcomings. You haven’t put yourself in a situation to see if you can do it or not. Everyone single person that starts in this journey starts here.
You’ll soon realize how many skills you lack and that your self-confidence in the real world is not as good as you think it is. And that’s alright. We’ve all gotta start somewhere. You first need to be awful at something in order to become good.
Then you get to level two. You realize that you don’t know how to do things but at least you know that there is a better way. This is the “a-ha” moment. It is the moment when you decide to change something because you are not going to live this way anymore.
At this stage, you are looking for ways to meet girls. You are studying and you are trying new stuff in the field. It is not easy. You are still going to fail, a lot, but you are on the right road.
The third stage is when you are actually getting good at it. You must think every move and you are like an actor playing a role, but things are working in your favor. You are getting phone numbers, even dates. You are making progress. Sometimes you fail, sometimes you win, but at least you know that if you do the right things often enough, you’ll succeed.
Finally, you move into the fourth stage. This is when it becomes a part of you. This is when everything you do, learn becomes a second nature so you can simply go out and meet girls. This is your final goal.
You can’t jump from 1 to 4. You need to go through each and every single step of the learning process. I assume that you are eager to get results but until you fail, you can’t succeed.
That’s the mindset you need to have.
Accept the fact that you’ll suck at first. And accept that it is all a number’s game. A game in which if you do it enough, no matter how good or bad you are, you’re going to get results. The more you’ll do it, the better you’ll get at it, the faster you’ll get results.
If you want to eliminate everything but the basic concept – the more work you put in now, the less work you’ll have to put in later. If it will take 50 approaches to get a number when you first get started, if you do it constantly, in six months that number will be down to five.
So get started. NOW. It is the fastest and easiest way to get where you want to be.